Why divorce allowed in islam

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The Islamic perspective on divorce "Divorce is something that is very much discouraged in Islam," explains Dr. What are some legitimate reasons for a couple to consider divorce?

There are definitely valid reasons Muslim men and women can seek divorce. Some other reasons are: a woman was married before and she did not tell her husband a woman marries man and he is impotent, and she finds out after marriage. Siddiqi gives the example of a husband not liking the way a wife cooks or dresses.

What can couples do to avoid divorce? Siddiqi recommends the following steps to couples who are in difficulty: 1. Tags divorce. May Allah bless you and grant you ease. Please give me any suggestion! One day he made me see him with another woman in a party that I was invited by his friends, and for my biggest surprise, it was also a party to wish him good luck to a trip to America, with the note " not coming back" it was devastated for me, then I've passed him bye and I've tryed to move on with my life!

I got married while I was sleeping and I didn't even realise that that was happening! My husband got arrested in America over the charges of rape! I was really surprised, I couldn't believe that this was him!

I just have Allah to help me to fight sheitan over and over again! I again said: Rabah, seek permission for me from Allah's Messenger may peace be upon him. Rabah looked towards the apartment and then cast a glance at me, but said nothig. I then raised my voice and said: 0 Rabah, seek permission for me from Allah's Messenger may peace be upon him. I think that Allah's Messenger may peace be upon him is under the impression that I have come for the sake of Hafsa.

By Allah, if Allah's Messenger may peace be upon him would command me to strike her neck, I would certainly strike her neck. I raised my voice and he pointed me to climb up and get into his apartment. I visited Allah's Messenger may peace be upon him , and he was lying on a mat. I sat down and he drew up his lower garment over him and he had nothing else over him, and that the mat had left its marks on his sides. I looked with my eyes in the store room of Allah's Messenger may peace be upon him.

I found only a handful of barley equal to one sa' and an equal quantity of the leaves of Mimosa Flava placed in th t nook of the cell, and a semi-tanned leather bag hanging in one side , and I was moved to tears on seeing this extremely austere living of the Holy Piophet , and he said: Ibn Khattab, what wakes you weep?

I said: Apostle of Allah, why should I not shed tears? This mat has left its marks on your sides and I do not see in your store room except these few things that I have seen ; Ceasar and Closroes are leading their lives in plenty whereas you are Allah's Messenger. His chosen one, and that is your store! He said: Ibn Khattab, aren't you satisfied that for us there should be the prosperity of the Hereafter, and for them there should be the prosperity of this world?

I said: Yes. And as I had entered I had seen the signs of anger on his face, and I therefore, said: Messenger of Allah, what trouble do you feel from your wives, and if youhave divorced them, verily Allah is with you, His angels, Gabriel, Mika'il, I and Abu Bakr and the believers are with you.

And seldom I talked and which I uttered on that day I hoped that Allah would testify to my words that I uttered. And so the verse of option Ayat al-Takhyir was revealed.

Maybe his Lord, if he divorce you, will give him in your place wives better than you. And if you back up one another against him, then surely Allah is his Patron, and Gabriel and the righteous believers, and the angels after that are the aidera lvi. And it was 'A'isha,daughter of Abu Bakr, and Hafsa who had prevailed upon all the wives of Allah's Prophet way peace be upon him for pressing them for mote money. I said: Messenger of Allah, have you divorced them?

I said: Messenger of Allah, I entered the mosque and found the Muslims playing with pebbles absorbed in thought and saying: Allah's Messenger has divorced his wives. Should I get down and inform there that you have not divorced them? He said: Yes, if you so like. And I went on talking to him until I found the signs of anger disappeared on his face and his seriousness was changed to a happy mood and as a result thereof his face had the natural tranquillity upon it and he laughed and his teeth were the most charming among the teeth of all people.

Then Allah's Apostle may peace be upon him climbed down and I also climbed down and catching hold of the wood of the palm-tree and Allah's Messenger may peace be upon him came down with such ease as if he was walking on the ground, not touching anything with his hand to get support. I said: Messenger of Allah, you remained in your apartment for twenty-nine days.

He said: At times the month consists of twenty-nine days. I stood at the door of the mosque and I called out at the top of my voice: The Messenger of Allah may peace be upon him has not divorced his wives and it was on this occasion that this verse was revealed: "And if any matter pertaining to peace or alarm comes within their ken, they broadcast it; whereas, if they would refer it to the Apostle and those who have been entrusted with authority amongst them, those of them who are engaged in obtaining intelligence would indeed know what to do with it" iv And it was I who understood this matter, and Allah revealed the verse pertaining to option given to the Holy Prophet may peace be upon him in regard to the retaining or divorcing of his wives.

Abbas Allah be pleased with tlicm reported: I intended to ask 'Umar b. As he came back and we were on the way he stepped aside towards an Arak tree to ease himself. I waited for him until he was free. I then walked along with him and said: Commander of the Faithful, who are the two among the wives of Allah's Messenger may peace be upon him who backed up one another in their demand for extra money?

He said: They were Hafsa and 'A'isha Allah be pleased with them. I said to him: It is for one year that I intended to ask you about this matter but I could not date so on account of the awe for you. He said: Don't do that. If you think that I have any knowledge, do ask me about that. And if I were to know that, I would inform you.

He the narrator stated that 'Umar had said: By Allah, during the days of ignorance we had no regard for women until Allah the Exalt- ed revealed about them what He has revealed, and appointed turn for them what he appointed. He said: It so happened that I was thinking about some matter that my wife said: I wish you had done that and that. I said to her: It does not concern you and you should not feel disturbed in a matter which I intend to do.

She said to me: How strange is it that you, O son of Khattab, do not like anyone to retort upon you, whereas your daughter retorts upon Allah's Messenger may peace be upou him until he spends the day in vexation.

I said: You should bear in mind, my daughter, that I warn you against the punishment of Allah and the wrath of His Messenger may peace be upon him. You may not be misled by one whose beauty has fascinated her, and the love of Allah's Messenger may peace be upon him for her. I 'Umar then visited Umm Salama because of my relationship with her and I talked to her. Umm Salama said to me: Umar b. When I had been absent from the company of the Holy Prophet he used to bring me the news and when he had been absent I used to bring him the news, and at that time we dreaded a king of Ghassan.

It was mentioned to us that he intended to attack us, and our minds were haunted by him. My friend, the Ansari, came to me, and he knocked at the door and said: Open it, open it.

I said: Has the Ghassani come? He said: The matter is more serious than that. The Messenger of Allah may peace be upon him has separated himself from his wives. I said: Let the nose of Hafsa and 'A'isha be besmeared with dust. I then took hold of my cloth and went out until I came and found Allah's Messenger may peace be upon him in his attic to which he climbed by means of a ladder made of date-palm, and the servant of Allah's Messenger may peace be upon him who was black had been sitting at the end of the ladder.

I said: This is Umar. So permission was granted to me. I narrated this news to Allah's Messenger may peace be upon him and as I narrated the news concerning Umm Salama, Allah's Messenger may peace be upon him smiled. He was lying on the mat and there was nothing between him and that mat , and under his head there was a pillow made of leather and it was stuffed with plam fibres and at his feet were lying a heap of sant tree acacia niloctica, meant for dyeing and near his head there was hanging a hide.

And I saw the marks of the maton the side of Allah's Messenger may peace be upon him , and so I wept. He said: What makes you weep? I said: Messenger of Allah, the Khusrau and the Ceasars spendd their lives in the midst of luxuries , whereas you being Allah's Messenger are leading your life in this poverty. Thereupon Allah's Messenger may peace be upon him said: Don't you like that they should have riches of their world, and you have the Hereafter.

Ibn Abbas Allah be pleased with them said: I came along with Umar until we reached Marr al-Zahran the name of a place , and the rest of the hadith is the same as narrated by Sulaiman b.

Bilal except with the variation of words that I said: What about these two women? He said: They were Hafsa and Umm Salama. And he made this addition: I came to the apartments and in every apartment there was the noise of weeping.

And this addition was also made: And he the Holy Prophet had taken an oath of remaining away from them for a month, and when twenty-nine days had passed, he visited them. Ibn Abbas Allah be pleased with them is reported to have said: I intended to ask Umar about those two ladies who had pressed for worldly riches during the lifetime of the Holy Prophet may peace be upon him , and I kept waiting for one year, but found no suitable opportunity with him until I happened to accompany him to Mecca.

And as he reached Marr al Zahran he went away to answer the call of nature, and he said to me : Bring me a jug of water, and I took that to him. After having answered the call of nature, as he came back, I began to pour water over his hands and feet , and I remembered this event of separation of Allah's Apostle [may peace be upon him] from his wives.

So I said to him: Commander of the Faithful, who are the two ladies who had pressed the Holy Prophet [may peace be upon him] for providing comforts of life and I had not yet finished my talk when he said: They were 'A'isha and Hafsa. Ibn 'Abbas Allah be pleased with them reported.

I had always been anxious to ask 'Umar Allah be pleased with him about the two ladies amongst the wives of Allah's Prophet may peace be upon Lim about whom Allah, the Exalted, said: "If you both turn in repentance to Allah, then indeed your hearts are inclined to this " Ixvi.

And as we were going along a path, 'Umar Allah be pleased with hiyn went aside and I also went aside with him with a jug of water.

He answered the call of nature, and then came to me and I poured water over his hands and he performed ablution I said: Commander of the Faithful, who are the two ladies amongst the wives of Allah's Prophet may peace be upon him about whom Allah, the Exalted and Majestic, said: 'If you both turn to Allah in repentance, then indeed your heart are inclined to it"?

Zuhri said: By Allah, he disliked what he asked about, but did not keep it a secret. He 'Umar said: They are Hafsa and 'A'isha; and he then began to narrate the hadith and said: We were such people among the Quraish who dominated women, and as we reached Medina we found there people who were dominated by their women, and our women began to learn the habits of their women. He further said: And my house was situated in the suburb of Aledina in the tribe of Banu Umayya b. One day I became angry with my wife and she retorted upon me.

I did not like that she should retort upon me. She said: You disapprove of my retorting upon you By Allah, the wives of Allah's Apostle may peace be upon him retort upon him, and one of them detaches herself from him for the day until the night. She said: Yes. I said; Does any one of you detach herself from him from the day to the night? He said: She who did like it amongst you in fact failed and incurred loss. Does everyone amongst you not fear the wrath of Allah upon her due to the wrath of His Messenger may peace be upon him , and as a result thereof she may perish?

So do not retort upon Allah's Messenger may peace be upon him and do not ask him for anything, but ask me that which you desire, and the frank behaviour of your companion may not mislead you, if she is more graceful and is dearer to Allah's Messenger may peace be upon him than you meaning 'A'isha Allah be pleased with her. He Hadrat 'Umar further said: I had a compalaion from the Ansar and, we used to remain in the company of the Messenger may peace be upon him turn by turn.

He remained there for a day while I remained there on the other day, and he brought me the news about the revelation and other matter , and I brought him the news like this. And we discussed that the Ghassanids were shoeing the horses in order to attack us.

Id y companion once attended the Apostle. I said: What is that? Have the Ghassanids come? He said: No, but even more serious and more significant than that: the Holy Prophet may peace be upon him has divorced his wives. I said: Hafsa has failed and has incurred loss.

When it was dawn I observed the dawn prayer and dressed myself, and then came there in the house of the Holy Prophet and visited Hafsa, and she was weeping. I said: Has Allah's Messenger may peace be upon him divorced you all? She said: I do not know. He has, however, separated himself in his attic. I came to a black servant and said to him: Seek permission for 'Umar. He went in and then came to me and said: I made mention of you to him, but he kept quiet.

I then went to the pulpit and sat there, and there was a group of people sitting by it and some of then were weeping. I sat there for some time, until I was overpowered by that very idea which was in my mind.

I then came back to the boy and said to him: Seek permission for Umar. He went in and came to me and said: I made mention of you to him but he kept quiet. I was about to turn back when the boy called me and said: Go in; permission has been granted to you. I went in and greeted Allah's Messenger may peace be upon him and he was reclining against the couch of mat and it had left its marks upon his side.

I said: Messenger of Allah, have you divorced your wives? He raised his head towards me and said: No. I said: Allah is the Greatest. Messenger of Allah, I wish if you had seen how we the people of Quraish had domination over women but when we came to Medina we found people whom their women dominated.

So our women began to learn from their women. One dily I became angry with my wife and she began to retort upon me. I did not approve that she should retort upon me. She said: You do not like that I should retort upon you, but, by Allah. I said: He who did that amongst them in fact failed and incurred loss. Does any of them feel sate from the wrath of Allahupon her due to the wrath of Allah's Messenger may peace be upon him , and she has certainly perished.

Allah's Messtnger may peace be upon him smiled, I said: Messenger of Allah, I visited Hafsa and said: The behaviour of your companion 'A'isha may not mislead you, If she is more graceful than you and is dearer to Allah's Messenger may peace be upon him than you. Allah's Messenger may peace be upon him smiled for the second time. I said: Allah's Messenger, way I talk to you about agreeable things? I sat down and lifted my head to see things in the house and, by Allah, I did not see anything significant besides three hides.

I said: Messenger of Allah, supplicate the Lord that He should make life prosperous for your Ummah as He has made plentiful for the people of Persia and Rome in spite of the fact that they do no, worship Allah, the Exalted and Majestic, whereupon he Allah's Messenger sat up an I then said : Ibn Khattab, do you doubt that they are a nation whom their nice things have been given immediately in the life of this world.

I said: Allah's Messenger! And he Allah's Messenger had taken an oath that he would not visit them for a month due to extreme annoyance with them until Allah showed His displeasure to him Allah's Messenger. Zuhri said: 'Urwa informed me that 'A'Isha Allah be pleased with her said: When twenty-nine nights were over, Allah's Messenger may peace be upon him visited me, and he began his visit with me. I said: Messenger of Allah, you had taken an oath that you would not visit us for a month, while you have visited after I have counted only twenty-nine nights.

Thereupon he said: The month may also be of twenty-nine days. He then said: 'A'isha, I am going to talk to you about a matter, and you should not be hasty in it and do not give your final decision until you have consulted your parents.

He then recited this verse to me: "O Prophet, say to your wives" till he reached "mighty reward" xxxiii. I said: Is there any need to consult my parents in this matter? I in fact choose Allah and His Messenger may peace be upon him and the abode in the Hereafter.

Ma'mar said: Ayyub reported to me that 'A'isha said: Don't inform your wives that I have chosen you, whereupon Allah's Apostle may peace be upon him said: Verily Allah has sent me as a conveyer of message, and He has not sent me as a source of hardship to others.

Qatada said: "Saghat qulubukum" means "Your hearts have inclined. Fatima bint Qais reported that Abu 'Amr b. Hafs divorced her absolutely when he was away from home, and he sent his agent to her with some barley. She was displeased with him and when he said: I swear by Allah that you have no claim on us.

He said: There is no maintenance due to you from him, and he commanded her to spend the 'Idda in the house of Umm Sharik, but then said: That is a woman whom my companions visit. So better spend this period in the house of Ibn Umm Maktum, for he is a blind man and yon can put off your garments. And when the 'Idda is over, inform me. She said: When my period of 'Idda was over, I mentioned to him that Mu'awiya b. Abu Sufyan and Jahm had sent proposal of marriage to me, whereupon Allah's Messenger may peace be upon him said: As for Abu Jahm, he does not put down his staff from his shoulder, and as for Mu'awiya, he is a poor man having no property; marry Usama b.

I objected to him, but he again said: Marry Usama; so I married him. Allah blessed there in and I was envied by others. Fatima bint Qais reported that her husband divorced her during the life time of Allah's Prophet may peace be upon him and gave her a meagre maintenance allowance.

When she saw that, she said: By Allah, I will inform Allah's Messenger may peace be upon him , and if maintenance allowance is due to me then I will accept that which will suffice me, and if it is not due to me, I will not accept anything from him. She said: I made a mention of that to Allah's Messenger may peace be upon him and he said: There is neither maintenance allowance for you nor lodging. Fatima bint Qais reported that her husband al-Makhzulmi divorced her and refused to pay her maintenance allowance.

So she came to Allah's Messenger may peace he upon him and informed him, whereupon he said: There is no maintenance allowance for you, and you better go to the house of Ibn Umm Maktum and live with him for he is a blind man and you can put off your clothes in his house i. Abu Salama reported that Fatima bint Qais, the sister of al-Dahhak b. Qais informed him that Abu Hafs b. Mughira al-Makhzumi divorced her three times and then he proceeded on to the Yemen.

The members of his family said to her: There is no maintenance allowance due to you from us. Khalid b. Walid along with a group of persons visited Allah's Messenger may peace be upon him in the house of Maimuna and they said: Abu Hafs has divorced his wife with three pronouncements; is there any maintenance allowance due to her?

Thereupon Allah's Messenger may peace be upon him said: No maintenance allowance is due to her, but she is required to spend the 'Idda; and he sent her the message that she should not be hasty in making a decision about herself and commanded her to move to the house of Umm Sharik, and then sent her the message that as the first immigrants frequently visit the house of Umm Sharik, she should better go to the house of Ibn Umm Maktum, the blind, and further said: In case you put off your head-dress, he Ibn Umm Makhtum will not see you.

So she went to his house, and when the 'Idda was over, Allah's Messenger may peace be upon him married her to Usama b. Zaid b. Fatima bint Qais reported: I had been married to a person from Banu Makhzum and he divorced me with irrevocable divorce. I sent a message to his family asking for maintenance allowance, and the rest of the hadith has been transmitted with a slight change of words.

In the event of a divorce, children often bear the most painful consequences. Islamic law takes their needs into account and makes sure that they are cared for. The financial support of any children—both during a marriage or after divorce—rests solely with the father.

Different jurists have established various opinions on how this might best be done. Some have ruled that custody is awarded to the mother if the child is under a certain age, and to the father if the child is older. Others would allow older children to express a preference. Generally, it is recognized that young children and girls are best cared for by their mother.

Since there are differences of opinion among Islamic scholars about child custody, one might find variations in local law. In all cases, however, the main concern is that the children are cared for by a fit parent who can meet their emotional and physical needs. After the waiting period is over, the divorce is finalized. It is best for the couple to formalize the divorce in the presence of the two witnesses, verifying that the parties have fulfilled all of their obligations.

At this time, the wife is free to remarry if she wishes. Islam discourages Muslims from going back and forth about their decisions, engaging in emotional blackmail, or leaving the other spouse in limbo. If a couple decides to reconcile, after the divorce is finalized, they must start over with a new contract and a new dowry mahr. To prevent damaging yo-yo relationships, there is a limit on how many times the same couple may marry and divorce. If a couple decides to remarry after a divorce, this can only be done twice.

After divorcing and remarrying twice, if the couple then decides to divorce again, it is clear that there is a major problem in the relationship! Therefore in Islam, after the third divorce, the couple may not remarry again.

First, the woman must seek fulfillment in marriage to a different man. Only after she is divorced or widowed from this second marriage partner, would it be possible for her to reconcile again with her first husband if they choose. This may seem like a strange rule, but it serves two main purposes.

First, the first husband is less likely to initiate a third divorce in a frivolous manner, knowing that the decision is irrevocable.

One will act with more careful consideration. Secondly, it may be that the two individuals were simply not a good match for each other. The wife may find happiness in a different marriage. Or she may realize, after experiencing marriage with someone else, that she wishes to reconcile with her first husband after all.

This classed is geared towards new Muslims or individuals who would like to learn more about Islam. Its a structured to build a support group around reverts in particular.

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